Hello SOTGC community,
Some of you are probably thinking, a haircut? Really? How could something so trivial make such a difference in a person’s life?
Let me explain. …
I recently made some decisions about this year. In fact, they were declarations. Infused with more energy than mere resolutions, I became clear on what I want for 2015 (and my future in general).
Through some personal work and coaching (yes … even the best coaches work with coaches!), I realized that I was playing small. As a result, I haven’t been getting what I want out of life.
So what has been keeping me from stepping up in the most powerful way possible? I can tell you without a doubt that it has been fear. I decided that in order to break through the fear, I would have to do more things that require more courage and that were going to put me right smack in the middle of uncertainty.
And that’s where the haircut comes in. …
I was sitting in the chair at the salon last week, there for my standard haircut, when my stylist asked me a nerve-wracking question … ”How about a short bob with some very short bangs?”
Within seconds I felt like I was at the top of a roller coaster just before the big drop.
If we are honest with ourselves, most women attach a lot of importance to their appearance. That’s why we shop for clothes, have lots of beauty products, and spend time at the salon.
We don’t do this because we are vain (some narcissists aside) – we do it because it makes us feel more beautiful, and it connects us to our feminine side. Some of us however, hide behind it … the clothes, the makeup, the hair … these aspects of our beauty are so connected to our self-worth that the idea of making a big change can rock the boat. The uncertainty can be overwhelming.
My hair has been a sore spot for me all of my life. I have very fine, thin hair. Volume and body … ha, yeah right. The casting agents for Pantene commercials are not going to be calling me. Ever. So, I have played it safe with the same basic cut for most of my life. Mostly because I think it’s the most flattering. And bangs? Short bangs? Aren’t those for people with great thick hair? Don’t they require maintenance? What if I look terrible? This will mean I can’t play it safe and put my hair in a bun (the equivalent of my “hair uniform”)!
Hello Panic. Hello Fear. Hello Uncertainty.
The assistant took me off to wash my hair, and while I was getting my shampoo, I reminded myself of the declarations I had made for this year, and I remembered what was holding me back, and that was fear. So when I found myself back in the stylist’s chair, I told him to go for it, and I did it boldly and with confidence!
And this is what happened:
I ended up with a haircut (described as “French,” which I secretly find exciting) that has completely changed my look. For better or worse, I have yet to decide, but that is irrelevant.
I lost four inches of hair (eight when you consider the bangs), AND a lot of fear.
Letting go of some of that hair, as insignificant or silly as that may seem, was an exercise in letting go and embracing uncertainty. And that one simple exercise created a wonderful ripple effect. …
It has helped me let go of some of the fear that has kept me back in business. Up until now, I have been working with clients by referral only, off the Internet radar, which has been okay for me. But I realized that I wanted much more – I wanted to reach and transform more lives. And working behind the curtain was certainly not going to help me realize that goal.
In one week since the haircut, I have made appointments, hired consultants, and purchased some products that I need to create the products and services I have been incubating for years and that will help promote myself in a big way.
And why – because the woman who was bold enough to change her image is also bold enough to step up and do what’s necessary to change her whole life, one step (or haircut) at a time.
Have you ever taken a bold step towards letting go of fear? And what happened as a result? I’d love to hear about it in the comments below, and so would our readers!
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