Hello SOTGC community,
There is no greater disaster in our daily lives than to be immersed in unreality. In fact, the lives of those who live epic days look like ones who have an absolute commitment to reality.
To commit to reality we must practice embracing authentic limits, so that the every-day becomes an epically-effective-day. How?
Limits are behind all effective and efficient leaders. Those of you who know what I mean, say so! We cannot do or be anything we want and everything to all. Even the most gifted and talented of us has limits to keep us grounded, connected, and authentic. All this leads to humility. In fact, the very meaning of the word humility has its root in the Latin, humus, meaning “of the earth.”
When we embrace those limits in our lives we can feel the loss and then let the wrong ideas go by the wayside. This can either lead to disillusionment, disappointment, or it can lead to power-packed action.
So how do we commit to reality and embrace our limits?
1. Pay Attention to the reality of your current limitations. Limits look like time, energy, knowledge, focus, resources, and all other precious commodities.
• Where do you have the resources you need?
• When do you need to pause for a daily breather?
• Where do you need more of something?
2. Connect to others and determine who is available that could lend a much needed resource.
• Effective leaders realize that if someone else can do the same thing they can do themselves at least 65% as well they recruit and train them to do so.
• Effective and efficient leaders also invite others to help them when they know they can’t reach the goal alone.
3. Adhere to authenticity with others. There is great value in bringing in authenticity to the workplace, to your volunteer roles, and to your project management at home. This looks like realizing when your physical, intellectual, emotional or spiritual limits have been reached and inviting relational connections to meet you where you are so that together you can get further along. This is not a “weak and weary” leader here; this is a strong and competent leader who leads with others.
• Don’t be a leaking leader. When we do not process the very feelings that make us human, such as fear, anger, or sadness, we leak. Our workplaces and homes are filled with leaky leaders who have not treated their emotions as an embracing-limits issue. Most leak in socially acceptable ways like passive-aggressive behavior, sarcasm, over-eating, nasty tones, or giving silent treatment. Or, if you were raised in the South like me, maybe you leak in the “honey-smooth-charisma that neglects the real issue” kind of way.
• Leaders who engage with the growing workforce of millennials must be authentic to be effective.
When do I get to the epically effective day?
A woman who 1) pays attention to her current limitations and 2) connects to others is an 3) authentic force to be reckoned with in any environment.
• We know we can’t do it alone and we know others who are gifted to help advance the effort.
• We also know how to share our needs in ways that honor those around us.
• We provide respect to those who share life with us, we increase our self respect, and we are truly empowered to get-‘er-done.
That’s how we get to the epically effective day by embracing our limits.
Which of these three steps will you start to focus on today? If you are already doing all three steps, which one do you think is most crucial? Why? What are three things you will fight to accomplish today, and who do you need to help you? Let us know in the comments.
Liz Lawrence, MA, LPC-S is counselor, coach and creative who is passionate about people. Connect with her at www.lizlawrencelpc.com
Photo Credits-vintage Los Angeles found on tumblr.com