Hello SOTGC community,
I’m working with a new client that reminded me our emotions could quickly and easily derail our goals. Mix your emotions together and you come up with a lethal cocktail.
“There are four emotions sure to undermine our goals:
fear, uncertainty, doubt, and shame.”
Seasons of life change often. Each season of life brings new events, such as job change, divorce, sickness, or something else. Our emotions are then subjected to the fear of the unknown, shame, uncertainty of our abilities, self-doubt, and acceptance.
Before respectively earning the title of Queen of the Ask, I did not speak. I would avoid social interaction. My office mates just assumed I was anti-social. If I did attend an event, I would have a glass of wine to relax my nerves.
An event derailed my behavior; it’s called divorce. Initially, it was embarrassing and the shame consumed me. My self-doubt and fear of the unknown was too much to bear at times. Everyone was looking at me, they knew about me. Or so I thought.
As I’ve come to learn, it’s human nature to have these feelings – these emotions. It doesn’t matter if I’m coaching corporate executives, entrepreneurs, or speaking. These emotions are a common affliction.
There’s no manual or playbook telling us how to feel or behave. It’s our prerogative to make it up as we go along. The nerves of acceptance by clients when launching new products still creep up on me. When I speak, I still get those butterflies in my belly. The truth is, if you don’t feel that way, you’re clearly egocentric.
We will always endure these emotions. It’s human nature. It keeps us real. Just don’t allow the emotions to derail your goals.
I came to realize that when developing my programs I must focus on my audience. They want to know how I can help them, they’re not thinking about me. Everybody is infected by emotions at every season of life. When I realized I wasn’t alone in the divorcee club, I got out of my way, got out of my comfort zone, and I felt better about myself. The wart on my nose went away.
Socializing became enjoyable. Asking for dollars became enjoyable. Owning the Queen of the Ask became natural. I was stepping out and using my emotions to keep me on track to reach my goals.
Emotions could derail your goals. It’s up to you to keep your goals in perspective and overcome the negative influence around you. It’s your prerogative.