Hello SOTGC community,
I hope everyone’s day is starting off with promise and happiness. Today’s post is about recognizing when you’re getting so emotionally stretched that you’re not leaving enough for yourself, and then being able to pull back and take the much needed time to rejuvenate so that you can be of help to others.
I think as women we tend to want to “fix everything for everyone.” I year or so ago, I was speaking with a senior leader in my company and he asked me: “what drives you? What makes you do the things you do and where does this ambition come from?” What I came up with was: “I have to feel like what I’m doing matters. I need to feel that I’m creating and helping in some manner and that when I leave this world, I will go knowing that I did everything I could to help.” I don’t hold visions of grandeur like curing cancer or helping get us that closer to world peace. I do, however, hope that every day I am blessed with waking up in good health, that I can do at least one thing to help someone else.
This mentality often leads me to completely exhaust myself. To get to a point where my energy level (both physical as well as emotional) is so low that I find myself going to be super early, exhausted and run down, even though I can’t fall asleep for hours. So months ago I set a goal for myself, it was to recognize when I’m getting to the point where I start to run on fumes and pull back on some of the things others need from me, that I simply am not able to give at that point.
What I do now is take one day each weekend where I haven’t booked anything for a specific time that I have to be at, that way if I need I can simply write all day and I don’t have the stress of knowing I HAVE to be there for someone at a pre planned time. Though this sounds selfish, it’s simply what I know I need to do to maintain “just enough” so that I can actually be of help to others the other 6 days a week. So how about you? Have you struggled with this as well in your quest to help others and be there as a friend/wife/lover/mother/sibling? What do you do when you’re energy gets to that low point and you have to pull back and take time for yourself?