Hello SOTGC community,
I have a monthly ritual to take a trip to the book store, Barnes and Noble to be exact. It’s one of the many ways I disconnect during the weekend. Not to mention it’s a great place to people watch for new writing material. The trip to the bookstore started off different than it normally does. My normal routine is to take a quick glance at the bargain books situated in the front hallway just before entering. Then just like a robot, I walk to the motivation, self-help and career section. As an educator it’s my responsibility to stay abreast of any and all new books related to my field. Besides, let’s face it, most of us love reading, discovering and connecting with different perspectives that surround our passions in life.
However, before moving to the left back corner of the store, there was this mysterious energy pulling me to the front right side. So, in an instant I found myself gently glazing book titles on the front shelves. I see the name of the author of my favorite book, Paulo Coelho. Then I see a small book by Oprah. It wasn’t until I rounded this book shelf that I was stopped in my tracks. I began reading close to every book title on the top two shelves. In an instant, I was mesmerized by the mere fact that each book had the word “happiness” in their titles. The titles ranged from The Practicing Happiness Workbook, What Happy Women Know, The Buddha’s way of Happiness, Happiness by Design, and The Happiness Hypothesis to name a few. There is even a book written for teens on how to use manipulation to achieve happiness.
From there I was curious as to just how many books existed on “happiness”. A computer search at Barnes and Noble will only provide the first 125 titles. Then when I did a Google search, it found over 73 million possible titles. To say this is telling would be an understatement. So, who is responsible for one’s happiness? When I was younger I thought that I could reply on those in my inner circle to make me happy. That could either be my mother, sisters, friends and of course whomever I was dating at the time.
Fortunately, for me and those reading this blog, I discovered happiness is within. It’s our responsibility to be happy with who we are and where we are in life. What does this mean exactly? This means making peace with where you are in your life. Accepting the idea that if there needs to be changes made that will make you happier then it’s your responsibility to find a way. Many complain about not being valued and appreciated in their jobs. As a matter of fact, the number one reason people leave their jobs is because they don’t feel supported.
Know that your employer, colleagues and family can’t make you happy. Yes, they can add to your happiness but the essence of your happiness lies within!
It can’t be purchased, it can’t be found in a book, and your best friend can’t will it for you. I found that when you begin to appreciate who you are authentically and walk in your purpose with passion…that’s happiness! Think of that person you run into and they’re always happy. It doesn’t matter where they are, and it doesn’t matter how long it’s been since you’ve seen them last. The fact remains they’re smiling and enjoying all that life has to offer even the challenges.
Life isn’t designed to be perfect; however, it’s designed for you to create your own Happiness!
Share a time when you relied on others for your happiness and realized the unfair pressure you placed on those relationships.