Hello SOTGC community,
One of the hardest things that we women have to overcome in order to move forward for success, is to not take anything personally. Sales people are pretty good at not personalizing because we get the proverbial doors slammed in our faces on a regular basis. If we took every rejection, objection, or “no sale” personally we’d all end up in rehab or the loony bin.
If you’re going to move forward from “stagnation” in your career to fixing the things that need to be addressed so you are viewed as ready to take on a higher leadership role in your company, then you have to view feedback and events objectively and try to think of the big picture. I’m going to be honest and say that if you have a ton of talent, the accolades to back it, and are recognized as one of the best in the company yet you still haven’t moved up the ladder, there are probably some “hard truths” that you’ll have to hear, accept, and fix. NO ONE is going to be willing to tell you what those things are if they think that you’ll take it personally and get defensive.
The promotions that you get passed over for, the projects that you wanted to work on yet aren’t pulled for, none of this can be taken personally. First ask yourself: “Did the person creating the team, doing the promoting, or creating the initiative KNOW that you were interested in being a candidate?” This means did you make a call and request some time with this person to let them know how else you could be of help in the organization and ask to be considered for anything that comes up that could further your goals. If not, then start making those calls and requesting those physical or phone meetings with the direct person in charge of filling those positions.
Now, if you’re doing all that you should be, working hard, being the best, showing up consistently, being a team player, AND you’ve had conversations with all the parties involved in choosing those teams and making promotions and you’re STILL being passed over; then it might be time to get a recruiter, reach out to your own personal network, and move on.
Sometimes we get so comfortable in our company and position that even though we’re not being challenged and allowed to grow, we don’t do anything about it. Once again, don’t take the fact that you didn’t ascend in your company personally because you don’t know the key variables in making those decisions that probably had nothing to do with you. And never burn bridges. The person you storm out on or quit without proper notice today…could be the person who decides on bringing you on for a new company or project 5-10 years down the road…or not.