Hello SOTGC community,
We start receiving advice from a young age on how to build relationships, find career success, and, basically, how to live our lives. I’ve received invaluable advice over the years that has benefited me not only to accomplish goals, but dream up new ones. However, the trick to applying this steady stream of advice to help build your brand and create a voice all your own is to use a “listening filter.”
What’s a listening filter?! It’s when you absorb advice (in all its various forms) and then decide if you want to retain it or filter it and let it go.
Why filter advice? There’s going to be some advice that doesn’t line up with your goals. Most of it will be unsolicited and some of it might be downright depressing. Other people’s opinion can make you second guess and lose focus of what’s important to you. But there will also be the advice that will change your life for the better. Keep what you need and get rid of the rest.
Ears open. Filter on. And remember:
1. You are unique. Your individuality is a powerful thing. Yes, it’s wise to learn from those who have paved a path, but take the pieces helpful to you while you make your own way. There will be people who want to mold you, not guide you; don’t feel like you have to cookie cutter your way to success.
2. You may be braver than you think. I have moved halfway across the country. Twice. My reason: to experience a new adventure and write. Had I listened to the “don’t do it!” advice of those who warned me that it was too expensive/too dangerous/and just too much of a bad idea, I would have missed out on so many wonderful opportunities. There are always a hundred reasons why you shouldn’t do something (as many people will try to tell you), but there only has to be ONE good reason why you should.
3. You never know until you try. I was once in a place that was not ideal and thought, I 100 percent do not like where I am at (career-wise). But I was given the advice that if I left my position, I would lose a sense of security. Did this make me worry? Of course it did! However, I used this advice to ask myself what it is I truly want in a career, and security, in this case, just made me feel stuck. It may be scary to try something new, but the feeling can be oh-so freeing.
4. You know what’s best for YOU. Know your strengths, but also be open to feedback for areas you can improve in because we ALL have those. Turn to people you respect to give you the constructive criticism that might boost you to the next step. As I always humbly remind myself, “I know a lot but I don’t know everything.” Hone in on who is trying to help you and who’s just trying to hold you back. The final decision to take the advice and run with it is purely yours.
What’s the best advice you’ve received, and how did you apply it to your career? Tweet @mscourtneybeth and share you favorite words of wisdom with me!