Hello SOTGC community,
I hope your day is going well. This post was inspired by a conversation I had with a dear friend a few days ago. We were talking about life, about how ours have turned out, and as the conversation progressed we started talking about the fact that we are both unmarried and have no children. If you had told either of us, when we were 20, that we would get to our 30s and have flourishing careers but no family…we would have looked at you in shock.
For years I spent a lot of emotional time lamenting this fact. Watching the spouses at work functions, seeing pictures of my colleagues’ children, and feeling that this was the one area in my life that I have failed. As you can probably guess, this led to many lonely nights yearning for something I had not achieved yet. Until I started this website, and I realized that life is just TOO DARN SHORT to be spent yearning for things that will come in their due time, but haven’t appeared yet.
In the past two years since I started SOTGC I have had the opportunity and honor of interviewing some of the most amazing women. I have felt pride in how courageous these women are who share their stories of overcoming obstacles that would have crushed many people. I’ve cried while hearing stories of women who selflessly give countless hours to their non profit organizations to help right the injustices of nature or circumstance.
Does this mean we shouldn’t constantly work to improve ourselves? No. I believe everyone, every day should do at least one thing that expands their views and makes them a better person. Does this mean we shouldn’t set lofty goals and relentlessly move towards achieving them? Nope. The feeling of pushing ourselves to our full capabilities will keep us sharp and young at heart. However, while we do all of these things, we should look at everything we have yet to accomplish and be glad that there is still something to look forward to.
What prompted this new outlook? Well, I woke up one day and took stock of my blessings. I have a healthy and wonderful family who loves and supports me along every step of my journey. I have friends who challenge and push me every day…but would be there for me in heartbeat when I’m in need of their support. I have two jobs (my career at Medtronic Advanced Energy, and building SOTGC) that enable me to meet people that teach me something new on a daily basis and allow me to channel my energy towards causes that I’m passionate about.
So if you were like me several years ago and find yourself constantly feeling sorrow for things that you feel others have been given and yet you have not. Try saying 5 things that you’re grateful for every night before you go to sleep for two weeks. I can guarantee if you do this you will wake up one day and your outlook in life will change, for the better. So start today, and practice gratitude daily. No one ever looked back on their life and said “Wow! Do I wish I was more ungrateful in my lifetime!”