Hello SOTGC community,
This post is by way an addendum to my article on Giving Compliments. I do believe individuals hesitate to give empty flattery that means nothing at all. (“Anna, what a cute cardigan, cute shoes and bag too!” is rarely offered.)
However, I know there are times when it is very difficult to accept compliments, even the most genuine and deserved ones. A person whose compliments are not received well will hardly make the effort to do it again at the risk of appearing obsequious or insincere.
The only thing to do when one is paid a compliment is to smile and graciously say, “Thank you.” It may take some time to get used to it, but it will come easy. If, at the moment, you feel overwhelmed with the attention, do feel free to say, “Thank you. It’s very kind of you to say so.”
Avoid being self-deprecating when a well-deserved compliment is paid. Try not to make pained facial expressions or to say, “No, you don’t mean that.” It could come across as arrogant and ungrateful rather than modesty.
I believe in giving credit where credit is due. If you find yourself getting praised for a group accomplishment, do tactfully correct the person. “Actually, James and I worked together on the project. He did all the illustrations.”
The giving and receiving of compliments is a social exercise that goes hand-in-hand. Achievements need to be recognised. This is one way of getting motivation or appreciation for an effort. Accepting complements keeps the appreciation flowing.
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