Hello SOTGC community,
Yeehaw! I’m filled with excitement and focus for 2014 as it holds great adventure and abundance for us to discover! No, I’ve not conjured some wildly exciting list of New Year’s Resolutions that are bound to be repeated on next year’s list because I have no real emotional attachment to them. It’s because 2013 led me to uncover and get out of a rut that had me moving in circles in my professional career with just small victories and advances being achieved rather than the major wins I knew were possible. Now I’m moving forward with tremendous freedom and already reaping the rewards. Want to know how I did it? It’s a beautiful thing!
Have you ever found yourself stuck in a rut? Maybe you’re there now. Well, I was and I’ve found that so many other people get stuck somewhere along the way as well. From the time we are very young our brains begin to develop habits of belief that form how we behave and perform well into our adult lives. Sometimes there are negative experiences in our adult lives that rewire our thoughts and create negative patterns. The great news is, we can “re-train” our brains toward the positive and realize our true potential, no matter how young or old we may be or what wounds need healing.
I was so fortunate to have the joy and blessing of spending the Christmas holiday with my family in Southern California (thank you God for the beautiful and sunny 80 degree weather!). While there, I spent a great deal of time with my good humored maternal grandparents who both experienced significant physical challenges in 2013. My 83 year old grandmother had major back surgery and while her recovery was slow and trying, she emerged a champion! Though she has her wonderfully hilarious sense of humor still in tact, somewhere in her adult life she began to believe she was no longer worthy of nice things. Following her surgery, she lost a great deal of weight and is a very petite but beautiful woman. She was wearing hand-me-down clothes that were far too large for her. We decided a shopping trip was in order to revive her spirits and get her in a frame of mind ready to face her upcoming neck surgery. Surprisingly, it took my mom and I a great deal of coaxing to allow us to take her shopping for new clothes in her size. She kept saying to me, “Well, I really don’t deserve this.” I was confused by her comment until I began to ask more questions and learned, she really believed she deserved nothing more than thrift store finds because she was old and no longer influential in her community. She was stuck in a rut! Having been a successful performance vocalist and office manager, I remembered her in beautiful gowns and well applied makeup with her hair nearly always coiffed in the latest trend. This self awareness and pride faded as she aged because she somehow lost her feeling of usefulness. Don’t let this happen to yourself!
Our little shopping spree yielded quiet a beneficial return. I was able to hear my grandmother’s needs, speak to her self-esteem and assure her of her still existing purpose. We laughed and laughed as we got her into Liz Claiborne skinny jeans and fashionable, colorful blouses that fit her cute little figure. She is a size petite small we learned and still absolutely loves fashion – she had just lost herself. Two days following our outing, she came to a cocktail party in her new duds with a confident smile and before I left for home, she hugged me, thanked me and said a lovely thing to me, “You have renewed my interest in fashion. I feel really special. I need you around more often.” It will take some continuous reminders that she still has purpose and for her to enjoy feeling great when she gets dressed, but sooner rather than later, my grandmother will again own the truth that she is valuable and deserving. Fashion and cosmetics may lead only to skin deep beauty for some but for me, it opens doors to women rediscovering their value, believing they can achieve more than mere mediocrity and busting ruts wide open!
So I challenge us all this year to skip casual goal setting and new year’s resolutions that will most likely fail and instead seek out and bust those ruts. Re-train our brains. Become our most amazing selves and experience the inevitable abundance that awaits us in freedom. In your freedom, beauty will blossom consistently.
It took me 10 weeks of working with my mentor and a professional coach seeking, asking, working to find my real rut so that I could get out of it and on with my life. Don’t be afraid to face the pain or tire in doing the difficult things for in this process you reap a harvest more fulfilling than you could ever think or imagine.
3 tips to get you started busting those ruts:
1. Become aware – get off auto pilot.
2. Set Your Intention (your internal GPS) – know clearly where you desire your life to lead you and what course you need to get there.
3. Let go and Flow – don’t force your way to your next goal or promotion, trust the process and allow the results to unfold.
Let me give credit where credit is due: I work with Deb Erickson – “The Rut Buster” through her program Get of The Rut and On With Your Life. To learn more about Deb and her programs, visit www.deberickson.com and check out this little video on YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2VysCsw5w3Q
Yours with Unlimited Potential,