Hello SOTGC community,
As I continue to study and learn more on the power of neurological programming and our ever capable minds, I am convinced that our greatest selves are achieved in the knowing and being not just the doing. Our mindset and understanding of reality are what will attract to us everything we ask for and speak about – both positive and negative. This concept may be a little vague here so let me explain in more practical examples, continuing the thoughts about our beautiful and curvy bodies from my last entry.
I was a successful competitive dancer for the great majority of my life and was super fit – 11 hours a day of dancing granted me lovely legs but I’m taller than most women, especially dancers, and have “big” legs and a booty. I was often forced to diet ridiculously to try and blend in with the troop in order to be less of a distraction on stage which took a toll on my body and made weight management quite a challenge as I matured. Then, in my late 20s and early 30s I learned the importance of a fully balanced diet, how to eat small meals 6 times a day to keep my metabolism fires stoked and work in cardio and weight lifting to regain the athletes body that stress and a full time corporate career had begun to strip from me.
Credit: Laura Stanyer
And in this present but temporary moment (the past 2 months), as my schedule has changed again and I’m out of my normal routine – not getting in my early morning workouts 6 days a week but only 3, losing muscle tone and feeling “fluffy”, I could so easily become frustrated and judgmental of my body. I’ve learned, however, that negative talk against my own body keeps me from returning to optimum health even longer. Have you ever had a coach, boss or parent attempt to scold you in order to get results and get you to perform? Do you remember how you felt; disgusted, angry, hurt, no desire to please someone who thinks you’re “lousy”? I perform much better and with a far more joyful and determined attitude when I’m being praised to success. Our amazing feminine bodies are exactly the same and will yield our best results when we love on them and praise them right where they are.
Let me follow a short bunny trail for a moment; Why has our cultural perception of the “perfect” body become extra thin while the average person in the US remains obese? Let’s get the truth about why waif models on the runway have become a standard – it’s the clothes the designers want you to see, not the woman wearing them. Fuller curves would be distracting and cause clothes to cling a little more rather than hang and drape as on a hanger. Also note that most of the clothes seen on the runway will never be seen exactly as they are in any store for the consumer. These are creative concepts, not intended to set the standard for what you and I should look like every day. I find it so refreshing that we are returning to an ideal of health, clean eating and slow food while actually celebrating some curvy celebrity women the likes of Beyoncé and Sophia Vergara.
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We can crush fear and negative self-image allowing us the freedom to blossom and take our lives and careers to the heights we dream of by reprogramming our mindset and the things we speak about ourselves and our work. While this may be an uncomfortable challenge at first, take some time this week to stand nude in front of a mirror and starting at the top of your head and moving to your toes, speak a praise about everything you appreciate about your body, what it has done for you and what it is going to produce. Then make this a practice as you learn to love all of your influential curves. This includes all of you lovely ladies who are naturally very thin, have worked hard to become so or have experienced illness – your bodies are beautiful, strong and productive. Love them, speak well of your body so it will produce what you desire. While I’m not yet at my peak physical health, I’m on my way and I’m taking control of my schedule again. I say every day what I’m bringing into reality, “I have a strong body, mind and spirit and choose to eat clean, exercise hard, and develop stamina for the gifts God has entrusted to me. It feels so great to be light, fit and pain free at 148 lbs. or less.” I’m grateful for a body that allows me to push hard in my workouts and doesn’t quit, thick hair that’s fun to style, 20/20 vision that helps me best take in the beauty of the world around me, my half-moon innie belly button that looks like it’s smiling at me, hips that can hold a child for hours (and that “don’t lie”, thank you Shakira), legs that can withstand long productive days, feet that move with grace and my little hunch back pinky toe that keeps me balanced in my stilettos and in yoga class.
I believe strong and healthy are the new skinny.
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Curves are attractive to both men and women alike. It gives us a unique ability to command attention and convey a message, the Goddess Effect. It is of utmost importance that we become healthy – emotionally, spiritually, physically and financially to live our best and most beautiful and full lives. The author William Shenstone (1714–1763) put it more poetically: “Health is beauty, and the most perfect health is the most perfect beauty.”
And today, when I start my days after my quiet time, getting my “why” into focus and speaking my affirmations, I feel like this…!
Won’t you join me?
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