Hello SOTGC community,
How many of you are, or are close to, people who do things 100% or they just don’t do them at all? We all know these people. The ones that when they commit themselves to learning or doing something new they work tirelessly towards becoming one of the best, and do not stop until they achieve that goal. Yet when you ask them to try out something new they dig their heels in and you can’t even get them to sit down for a few minutes to talk about it?
I can relate strongly to this, because I am one of those “100% or nothing at all” type of people…I always have been…and I’m realizing the limits that puts on me, as well as the people around me who are trying to help me grow.
In no way am I saying that it’s a bad thing to want to excel and diligently work towards doing everything to the best of your abilities, but what I think would be far more beneficial is giving other subjects a chance, even if I can only dedicate a small amount of time to them each week, but at least I’m starting a foundation that can be further built upon later.
The example I will use is that I have recently started getting stock options trading coaching from Laurie Itkin (AKA The Options Lady). Laurie’s one of my amazing guest authors and she never ceases to amaze me with her brilliance, passion for her mission of The Options Lady, as well as her patience with stubborn people like me. Why have I dug my heels in on learning from her when I KNOW I need to be more market savvy and take control of the hard earned money I generate? Because the thought of having to become a market pro gives me anxiety. I don’t have time to read every issue of Money magazine, to log onto MSN Money or Yahoo finance everyday and see what all the sectors in the market are doing, and so I have balked for months at starting my coaching.
However, as I look at how short life can sometimes be and I look at HOW HARD I dedicate myself to my job and clients, which in turn generates the revenue I make, I realize that refusing to even START the process of becoming investment savvy is just stupid and closed minded. Another realization that came to me as I look at the subjects I’m very good at and WHAT I did to get to this level of acumen and how long it took, is that NONE of them came overnight. Some took me less time than others because I jumped 100% in and dedicated hours and hours each day to get good at them, and others have compiled over short intervals of learning over a few years.
So if there is one message I’d like you to take away from this post, it’s that if you too are a “100% or nothing at all” type of person…WHAT are you missing out on due to this stubborn need you have to only start learning when you have hours of time each day to do it? And then further realize that as you get older, as your personal life gets busier and your career really takes off…the hours in the day only seem to shorten and you will never have “the right amount of time to truly dedicate to something 100%.”
So I pose a challenge to you. Pick something that you’ve been putting off (especially if it’s for your personal benefit/enjoyment, outside of work) and try spending 3 hours a week on it. In two months…see how far you’ve progressed on your learning curve and realize that past the age of 5…NOTHING in your life can be done 100%…so do you just sit around for the rest of your life doing nothing at all? Or do you slowly become well versed in a variety of subjects because you plug away at them little by little…until one day you realize you’ve become an encyclopedia of diverse knowledge?
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