I attended a conference a few weeks ago and the one thing that really stuck with me was a talk by Sanjiv Sidhu about keeping your emotions stable despite circumstances. This really hit home to me as a solopreneur. I’m constantly excited or devastated by negative comments about my business, great workshops, the feeling of finishing something to know you have to start all over again, and every other circumstance that might be thrown at me as an entrepreneur. So to think I could learn to control my emotions despite the ups and downs intrigued me. So how do you stay empowered despite circumstance? First off you should wait for Sanjiv to teach you, but in the meantime I’ll do my best.
There are 5 steps you need to master, but the first 2 are the most difficult and we will go over them today in this post.
- Have awareness
- Modulate you emotions
- Control your impulses
- Find clarity
- Develop focus
Awareness is the key. When we are feeling emotions from circumstances our first step is to name it. Say wow you feel: angry, anxious, happy, ecstatic, etc. Then ask your self why, and then don’t judge your answers. Just own the feeling and let it be, this is the fastest way to staying empowered despite our circumstances.
So what I do to stay empowered despite my circumstances is to first label my feeling, IE “wow I am nervous that not enough people will come to my event.” Then I ask my self “why I feel that way?” My honest answer is ” I’m afraid the host site will never invite me back.” Then I realize that I cannot change how someone else thinks or acts, what will be will be, so let it go. And by now the anxiety should have subsided, if it doesn’t try thinking that way all over again until it sticks.
So that’s it for now, try using these quick techniques to help you stay empowered despite your circumstances.
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