Hello SOTGC community,
Can you think of a time when you have experienced some kind of discomfort, and it has prevented you from moving forward? I can think of many!
When we stretch our physical bodies for instance, sometimes we experience discomfort, and this is when many people stop, pull-back, or resist.
As someone who practices yoga (and who has been certified to teach it), I know that it is ok to allow your body to stay with the discomfort, and allow your body to breathe into the resistance (If you are in pain however, then you should stop). If done properly, this can lead to expansion, and the creation of space within the body, and of course a gentle increase in the flexibility of your muscles.
It is human to move away from what is uncomfortable. We do it with our bodies, but more often, we do it with our minds, and this gets us into trouble. We get caught up in our thoughts, most of which are limiting beliefs, and the discomfort causes us to remain stuck.
Resistance is not futile, it is fertile. When we stretch in life, we allow ourselves to grow and progress. Our success depends on how willing we are to step outside of our comfort zone; in other words, how willing we are to move beyond the discomfort, or resistance.
Growth (and progress) might be uncomfortable at times, but it does not have to be painful – if that is your experience, you may be going about it in an ineffective way. For instance, when you push too hard, or take things too quickly, you set yourself up for failure or burnout.
I have made this mistake many times myself, both body and mind. The first time I took a yoga class, which was at my gym, I could barely move for a couple of weeks afterwards (no joke); apparently I thought I was a superstar, and therefore should be able to do all of the poses that the more advanced students were doing…clearly not the best approach! And when I had thoughts about starting my own business, I thought I would jump in and achieve success quickly. I jumped from 0-100 (to try to avoid the discomfort of the necessary steps in between) and wondered why things weren’t as I’d hoped. Live, and learn.
Just as you would with your physical body, it is best to ease into the” stretch”, little by little. When we allow ourselves to grow, one step at time, we allow ourselves to adapt. When we expect to change overnight, and then we don’t, our frustration can get the best of us. This is a common experience that many of my clients have experienced prior to working with me to adopt more successful and nurturing strategies.
We all have the potential to expand and grow beyond our wildest dreams…all it takes is a little stretching!
I encourage you all to do a little “stretch inventory”. Is there an area of your life where you wish to grow? Do you have a particular goal that you want to achieve? If so, see if you can come up with at least one thing that you can commit to doing this week that will help you stretch your progress muscle. And share it below in the comments section…I’d love to support you and help you stretch, and so would our other readers! And by the way, here’s a tip – if your commitment doesn’t feel even the slightest bit uncomfortable, I suggest that you up your ante!