Hello SOTGC community, This post was inspired by a conversation I had with a lady I met on a flight last week. I was headed out for a vacation and found myself sitting next to a woman on the first leg of my trip. She and I got to talking and turns out she used to be a Regional Sales Manager for a medical company. She now has her own business and has never been happier. After chatting for a bit and hearing her story, about how she found out about a total wage discrepancy and after approaching her Vice President about it and requesting either a salary match or to at least be told what she could be doing to get a raise, she received a pat on her knee and a “Oh…hon…these men have wives at home and families to feed.” Very shortly after this conversation she quit her job, sold all of her major possessions, and started her consulting business, which has turned into a lucrative and emotionally rewarding career. As our conversation went from “what did you do before your current job” to “what do you do now and how do you like it” into a more personal nature, we started talking about relationships. She said that one of the lessons she had to learn was how to NOT take her business with her into her relationship. Let me elaborate. During the starting phase of creating your own business (which is the first couple/few years) you are ALWAYS thinking about it. Ask any entrepreneur what their life is like in that stage that they’ll tell you that they eat, breathe, drink, and dream their company. She found the hard way that while that is great for her start-up, it was translating itself into her relationship and was making her fiancé feel more like a colleague than romantic partner. She said that now when she is with him, she makes a conscious effort to avoid talking about her work unless he brings it up. Then she simply addresses what he asked about and they go back to focusing on what is important at that moment, which is their quality time. I thought this was a great point to bring up, and would make for an interesting post. Often times I will get so caught up in my work (both my regular job and in getting SOTGC off the ground) that ALL of my conversations with my family and friends revolve around either of those two things. As she said this I started thinking about the majority of my conversations with the people who mean the most to me in my life. And I realize that I need to get better at taking off my work hat when I’m with them. In fact, now that I think of it, it’s not just something that entrepreneurs deal with…it’s ANYONE (male or female) that has a demanding job. So my request with this post is to be conscious of your conversations with your loved ones over the next few weeks. And if you find that you need to be more engaged in your relationships, would you share this post with them as a sign that you will work on being more present with them?
Marney Reid is a Marketing Program Manager for a global industry leader in medical device. She is also the Founder of Stilettos on the Glass Ceiling. She has nine years of sales experience in male dominated industries and is transcending the Glass Ceiling by using her authentic value proposition as a competitive advantage.