Above: Balboa Park
Hello SOTGC community,
I think one of the themes of my life lately has been “self reflection.” If there is any part of myself that hasn’t been “reflected” on in the past year, I would be shocked. It’s funny how events that you have no control over that happen and you are left to decide how you will cope and deal with them, can change your life…for good. The reason I say “how you will cope and deal with them” is because based on the choices you make during these major times of grief, of mourning, of loss, and pain, will decide HOW your life will change once you pull yourself out of the fog of it all, and into the clarity of the aftermath.
If I sit and look at where I am today, from an emotional, maturity level, and even financial aspect, I’d have to say that I cannot complain about how everything from the past year has turned out. If you asked me if, knowing what I know and BEING who I am today, would I go back and re-do these events and change anything…? Well…I’d have to honestly say….No…I wouldn’t.
I think when people have a strong desire to “go back and change” something, it’s because they aren’t happy with the outcome that those events have brought. I am a huge believe in the mantra that only YOU are in charge of your true outcome (unless you are a slice of pizza, sitting in front of me, then the outcome WILL be that you will be eaten, and you have no choice in that decision.)
However, if you are sitting in a moment of “wow, I WISH I could go back and change (insert random, most likely painful event here)…and if I could…I bet things would be different,” then this post will probably be pretty close to home for you. What I’m hoping this post will help you realize, is things CAN be different. At any given moment I feel that you can, at that time, make a conscious decision to handle a situation with a specific intention that will determine what your happiness will be, what lesson you get out of the event will be, and how you move forward to face future events that will come across your path.
Ever take a moment, and turn off all the “stimuli?” Turn off the cell phone, the email, the computer, the TV, the radio? Sometimes I’ll sit, for several minutes, in complete silence. I listen to what I DESIRE to have in the future. I think about what I would LIKE my life to look like years down the road. And then I will try to figure out how I need to change my current mindset to GET to those goals and to that happiness. Sometimes I think the reason we wrap ourselves in the crazy, fast pace that we live in today, is because we are afraid of what we might hear, and what we might face, in those soul searching moments of silence.
So how about you? Are there things you “wish you could go back and change if you could do it again?” If you’re honest with yourself, is it because you TRULY think changing them would make a difference? Or could changing your current mindset, taking the reins on your own intentions and steering them in a different direction, bring you to a place in your life where you can sit back, smile at the growth and even at the pain, and say “wow, BECAUSE of where I am today, I wouldn’t go back and change a thing…?”
Marney Reid is a Marketing Program Manager for a global industry leader in medical device. She is also the Founder of Stilettos on the Glass Ceiling. She has nine years of sales experience in male dominated industries and is transcending the Glass Ceiling by using her authentic value proposition as a competitive advantage.