Above: Two of my amazing cousins…at my Grandfather’s memorial service this summer
Hello SOTGC community,
I hope everyone had a wonderful and safe New Year’s Eve celebration last night, I can’t believe we are already into 2013. It seems like yesterday that I was sitting with my friends ringing in the New Year with them for 2012 and watching two men set a world record for longest jump (412) feet in the downtown San Diego marina.
As I sit here with my family during the Christmas holiday, laughing and joking with and about each other, I’m reminded of so many things to be grateful for. Most people make New Year’s Resolutions (NYR) during this time of year. I stopped making these years ago. Here is my take on NYR: these are a bunch of things that a person doesn’t WANT to do but knows that they should, either to enhance their health or to make them an overall “better person.” So they make it a “resolution” which immediately seems to have an obligatory feel to it, and therefore is started, and later stopped with the same amount of gusto. Rarely have I heard of someone deciding they need to change something in their life, WAIT for a specific DAY in the year to mark the start point, then continue on with it as a true life change.
This year, based on the events that have happened, the things I was forced to sit down and really take a look at, the pain, which then turned into self-awareness and eventually growth, I have a new perspective on New Years.
Instead of the hectic club, or crowded house party, I decided to head up to my parent’s house to ring in the New Year. One of the things I realized this year was that I don’t spend enough time with my family. I always took it for granted that I would have indefinite time with them. I never truly appreciated how much they had to offer in terms of knowledge, different viewpoints, and ideas. This year I realized that not only did they offer their love and support during my darkest days, but also they did it without reservations and judgment.
Because I was always so focused on getting to my current goals, then immediately setting the next goals, I never slowed down to enjoy the present time I was in. So this year, I felt the BEST way for me to ring in a New Year would be to surround myself with the people who have always been there for me. Not going out and searching for the “new,” but finding happiness with what has always been here for me. Instead of picking obscure things that I want to “change” and incorporate into my life…I have decided to look at what I already have, what has always been there, what will always be there, and I have resolved to make more time for them.
If this year has taught me anything, it’s that if I focus my entire life on the new, on the next, on the future, I will get to a point where I’m sitting in a chair with my caretaker handing me a cup of tea and tucking a blanket around my frail body, and I will wonder where the time has gone. So I offer a toast to all of you (most likely with water because I will have had enough champagne last night to last me….at least a week):
“Here is to a new year full of hope and happiness; and here is to finding that happiness in what’s currently in your life that never ceases to offer you hope.”
Below: My parents on Christmas morning…rockin the SOTGC shirts!!