Above top: My cousins and I when we were kids…guess who the hellion at the top is…?
Above bottom: My parent’s on their wedding day, along with my Mom’s parents
Hello SOTGC community,
I hope everyone had a wonderful holiday weekend. I’m sure EVERYONE is super excited to be back at work today. It feels like these last two weeks of the year are always like running wind sprints. You start from a standstill, then sprint through a few days at work; then come to a halting stop at the next holiday. That acts as a quick cool down, and then before you know it, you’re back into the sprint for another few days. I wonder if there is any data on the productivity level during these two weeks. Then I wonder if some companies acknowledge that no ones head is completely in the game…and plan accordingly.
I think that everyone gets very nostalgic during the holidays. When you get together with family, it’s impossible not to remember all the crazy antics you and your siblings/cousins/relatives did when you were younger. You also tend to remember those that you love, that are no longer with you. My parents gave my brother and I each a pot with Narcissus bulbs planted in them. These flowers were my favorite growing up. My Mom always grew them and we’d have them in our house every time they bloomed. The pots were my Grandmother’s, and this year her house, with all the memories, was sold after my Grandfather passed away. And now my brother and I each have a piece of our childhood that will grow and bloom in our houses.
We also tend to go through long moments of self-reflection and what I like to call “life’s value analysis quiz.” I look at where I was 5 years ago, where I am now, see if what I envisioned then matches up to where I am now, and I look at the goals I want to continue striving to attain. Then I assess if there are any that need to be altered, added, or ditched all together. Typically these goals are always set around my career.
This year, I wandered into my brother’s room where the boxes of pictures we took from our Grandparent’s house are being kept. I spent some time going through pictures of our childhood. What I noticed is that my cousins are in almost every single one. Some of the pictures made me cringe and think “WHO LET ME OUT OF THE HOUSE DRESSED LIKE THAT?!?!?!” Some make me cry and wish my Grandparents could have seen what my cousins and I are doing now. They would have loved to see the children my cousins have had, and watch them grow and turn into young adults. And these memories defined how I set my goals for the upcoming years.
Career, for me, is a given. I don’t have the personality to sit idly and do nothing. If I’m not going at 150 mph then I get bored and depressed. I’m happiest when I’m learning, when I’m creating, when I’m moving forward and learning from mistakes and paving the way for the next phase in my career.
So this year, the goals are centered on family and friends. I plan on spending more time physically with my parents, instead of emailing, texting, or calling them often and seeing them only once a month. Some of my best friends live literally 2-8 miles away from me, and yet I see them once a month as well. There have been friendships that I’ve let fall to the wayside because I haven’t agreed with the choices they are making, and I refuse to be taken down with a “sinking ship.” Instead of bailing like that, because I’m not able to handle them at that moment, I plan on trying to at least keep an open door policy because very little should warrant completely shutting the door on someone simply because they are stumbling through a tough road.
So how about you? What have you been thinking about lately? Are you reminiscing on childhood memories? Or are you moving forward with a new beginning in your life, and figuring out what characters and events you want to include in those chapters? Are you assessing your future and what you want to prioritize? And have you looked at the goals you’ve set lately, and really figured out if they are goals that will make you truly happy? As we come closer to the New Year, it seems like self reflection takes up more and more time…and hopefully…it will be as healing for you, as it has been for me.