Hello SOTGC community,
Here is the third part in our “Summer Slow Down” saga.
Bring magic to your professional relationships
At work, the biggest thorn in our side can be our relationships, and when our relationships suffer, so does everyone’s work and wellbeing.
It’s always nice to get a break. But if you find yourself gleefully sprinting away from people at work come vacation time, it’s a good sign you’re due to freshen-up your relationships.
We won’t have everything in common with everyone. What we think is right, good, decent, sensible, and smart is not always going to match up with the next person’s version.
And these differences can get under our skin. When they do, we’re hooked. We’re no longer seeing that person as a whole person who can be a pleasure to team up with, but we’ve lodged them in box. Instead, we’ve made them into the enemy.
It’s hard to go anywhere productive from that place.
But somewhere in the midst of those differences, the two of you align around something. There is something you have in common, something that rings true as personally important for the both of you, when it comes to life, or to what you’re working on.
Find that something.
Then disregard everything else.
It’s like this: when you’re walking on the sidewalk, if you stop to notice every single crack and get mad about, you’re going to have a terrible, slow, painstaking walk.
Treat your relationships the way you do walking on a tattered sidewalk: keep a soft focus on the horizon, appreciate the blue sky, and continue toward your destination.
In summer’s more laid-back atmosphere, you may want to spend some happy-hour time with the people you need to align (or re-align) with. That way, you can see them as a human beings again, and connect on a personal level.
Get curious. Why do they do what they do? What’s fulfilling about it to them?
What are their dreams for themselves—as in, when they’re 75 and looking back on life, what do they want to see?
What’s been their biggest loss? Their most proud moment?
Ask them! You might be surprised by the answer, and they might be flattered you care enough to ask.
We start to see into what matters to a person when we get curious and ask open-ended questions like this. Getting to know people this way elicits our empathy, which helps us connect and forgive.
Sharing the why behind what we strive for (and making ourselves vulnerable for a moment) can create an atmosphere of enjoying one another as human beings.
And life is short. It’s important to enjoy one another.
Stay tuned for Part IV in 4 Ways To Take Advantage Of The Summer Slow-Down