Hello SOTGC community,
Frustration is easily one of the most, well, frustrating states to be in! The good news is that I have found a solution, an antidote if you will, to move through frustration with ease.
I don’t know about you, but when I’m frustrated, I can easily spiral into one of several other states of mind – sadness, anger, hopelessness – none of which I particularly enjoy. And, ultimately, it can often result in a general stressed-out or anxious energy … no thank you!
So where does frustration come from? I’ve come to realize that frustration often occurs when we feel we have no control over circumstances or events in our lives.
I could tell you that the solution is just to let go of the need to control (which is ultimately true), but that may seem like a huge feat for some of you. Instead, I am going to offer you an antidote that I believe is much simpler, and one that can be used immediately, in the moment, in the NOW.
And let me tell you, I’ve put it to good use myself over the past week ….
I had several work-related (and income-producing!) projects that I wanted to have completed by Sunday, and they are not going to be done.
My toddler picked up a virus, and he has not been sleeping well (translation – mom and dad have not been sleeping well), and he has required more of my time and attention. This kind of thing is to be expected as a parent, but that doesn’t make it any easier to deal with, especially when it does not fit with your agenda (hello parenthood!), much less your business goals.
Obviously I love my child, and he is my priority, yet I have felt completely frustrated that things have not gone as planned. Also, my mind has felt consumed with the accompanying stress and frustration. Normally I am quite adept at managing this mental disruption, but the lack of sleep has made it much more challenging.
My point in telling you all this is that sometimes life is going to be busy, hectic, and throw you curveballs. Sometimes you are going to wish that you were doing something else … something more pleasant, enjoyable, or productive.
Here’s the catch – when you wish you were somewhere else, or doing something else, that is the least enjoyable or productive head space to be in!
My antidote to frustration is this – be fully present exactly where you are, whether you like it or not.
Was I thrilled that it took me two hours of coaxing my (less than thrilled) son to have a nap, with no success? No! Did I want to be working on my computer, getting things done? Yes!!!
However, the moment I decided to let go, take a deep breath, and release my need to control the situation, I felt much better (as better as one can feel with a grumpy child at your feet). I grounded myself in the present moment by telling myself that I was exactly where I needed to be, doing exactly what I needed to be doing.
And guess what? The tension subsided, and I was actually better able to meet the needs of my son.
The next time you find yourself doing something other than what you’d prefer to be doing, and you can feel the frustration creeping up on you, remember that sometimes the only thing you can control is how you will respond to the situation.
The survivors learn to adapt. Simple, yet sophisticated at the same time, staying rooted in the present is the best way to adapt to your current circumstances…and to thrive. You can go with the flow, or swim against it. One takes much more energy – energy that could be reserved for happiness, rather than fed to frustration.
If you know anyone else that might benefit from the antidote, please share this article on Twitter, Pinterest, LinkedIn or Facebook!! If you’ve got some other great solutions you’d like to share, let the community know by posting in the comments below … we can learn so much from each other, and live happier as a result.