Hello SOTGC community,
The Key to Success is to be You. Simple as that but far from easily managed. So far in life, no matter what area that I have moved in to (and there has been quite a few), I always end up with one word that it all seems to come down to Empowerment.
Being empowered, and the way I pragmatically use it “to lead oneself from ones own set of values without harming others”. I know, it’s a broad and in depth discussion that jumps off from that claim, but still this is how it all ends up in various discussions so far that I’ve been in during years past.
And yes, I do believe that there is a need for sound philosophical discussions on what our values are. That is one part of finding out, developing and being You.
Empowerment is the key factor the World Health Organization (WHO) claims to be the foundation for health, and a good health is the base for our existence. Without a good health, which I define as follows, and is in line with the definition used by the WHO. To me this definition of health is of more practical use.
“You experience a good balance between your body, emotions, thoughts and soul from your pre-conditions. You’re balancing yourself when you in the spur of the moment listen to your needs, not demands, and then, in your way fill them your way, with your methods that suites you the best”
Health is ones base for existence and is tightly connected to creativity. Especially when it comes to be creative and innovative beyond fighting for survival. Everybody is born creative and is a natural part of being a human, is a part of You. To be in contact with and being creative is also part the key to success.
Success is what’s spoken of on daily bases both privately and in work life, but what is success and to be successful? What is your definition of success and being successful? Stop right here and take a couple of minutes to write down what comes to top of your mind on what success and being successful means to you. An investment you make right here and now in your future work life.
To live a successful life you need to define what success is for you, and remember that it changes during life. Otherwise you might live a life that’s successful to others but not to you. It doesn’t have to be a discrepancy to your definition of success and what people around you define as success, but make sure what kind of success you’re striving for. And then you’ll enjoy and be satisfied in life. You are you, leading your life and work life successfully, and making the most out of the days that’s your life.
Leading your life and work life successfully by being You and use your superpowers/talents is all what matters in the end but to some this is a scary statement. This is why some years back the book “Success phobia – how to overcome your fear of succeeding” (only available in Swedish for now) sprung out of discussion at conference that I had with a career coach. For some years I noticed that I repeatedly ran into, and part of it was my own experience as well, people that wanted success but were afraid of succeeding. Talking to the career coach, she could confirm my experience, sharing the same experience; she more often met clients that were afraid of succeeding than of failing. I know, it seems unreal but was actually true the more we looked in to it writing the book. I will tell you more about it in my next blog post: “Success phobia and how to overcome the fear of succeeding”.
So how to be You and to know what your superpowers/talents are? If you’re not sure of it or need an update to move on in life, one of the real valuable resources is to ask friends, colleagues and family what they see as your superpowers/talents. Listen and reflect on what they tell you, and compare that to who you really are and to your values. If there is a discrepancy it might be that you’re trying to live up to someone that is not you. And then what do you do? Maybe these tips will help you:
- Be rested and get enough of, and have good quality of sleep. Just need to keep in mind how a tired child behaves, like the whole world is against it.
- Dare to and take the time to be alone, with out e.g. social media, tv and phone. Disconnect to others to connect to yourself at times.
- Get moving. Do something physical on your own, without company of others.
- Listen, listen and listen on the feeling in your body and your thoughts.
- Trust your self and what you feel and think. Then act out of it!
To succeed and be a good leader you need to you who you are and to feel at ease with it. You need to know your superpowers/talents. But most and for all: you need to live and use them. And that’s if you want to be successful and at the same time enjoy and feel satisfied with life. There is no short cut.
Again, there is no short cut to neither be successful and enjoy and feel satisfied with your life, nor work life not being You. And to be a great leader this is also a pre-requisite. If you want to make a career meaning to get a higher position as e.g. a management position, this is not necessarily the same as being a great leader. It could so happen to be, but my experience so far it that it’s often is a discrepancy between being a leader as a person and being a leader as a position. This is changing though, and it seems like the pace with what it’s doing so, is rapidly increasing in the new world of work. A world of work that’s leaving the industrialized era, including it’s mindset, behind and moving into the digitized era, with a new and disruptive, mindset. We’re all in the midst of this transition right now and there is no turnaround. So either we adhere to and actively take part in the change, or passively flow with it. I have chosen to actively take part in the change to make it a better world focusing on great leaders, including increased creativity and health. A leadership that will create more leaders and not followers, and the key to success for this is being You.
One of many women that have inspired me lately, and who’s also interviewed in one of my books, is Dr. Annika Steiber, researcher, CEO and founder of Innoway. She’s the first researcher so far ever that has studied Google management and the organization at their headquarters in Silicon Valley. She’s the founder of “The Google-model” that is well presented in her book: “The Google-model – managing continuous innovation in a rapidly changing world”, and here is her Tedx-talk on the topic. And some great NEWS! I just got to know that by the end of this year she’ll publish a new book: “The Silicon Valley Model- Management for Entrepreneurship”. I’m a buyer!
One last word: You’re great just the way you are, right here and now, by being You. Keep up the great work and move forward to a successful life!
Thanks for reading and I look forward to hear from you in any of my social media channels. Enjoy!