Hello SOTGC community,
Out of nowhere it happens upon you, leaving you searching for answers. Then the evitable becomes clearer and clearer as you try to clear the fog, doing your very best to escape the hazy thoughts of how! What happens to us that causes us to get stuck? Are we just moving along in life, mindlessly, with no real intention of pushing envelopes or committing ourselves to stepping outside boundaries to make a point?
What does being stuck look like? Where did this concept come from? Who was the brilliant individual that coined the term “I’m stuck”? When hearing and thinking about the word “stuck,” what are some of the images that come to mind? Well, I Googled the word to see what my search would yield. The first three things that came up: stuck in love, stuck in the middle, and stuck on a feeling. Now, you might think of a car’s tires being stuck, an item being stuck in the ground or in concrete, or someone being stuck in the mud. Then there’s the notion of being stuck in a dead-end job going nowhere fast.
Where does stuck originate? Does being stuck look the same for everyone and does everyone end up finding their way out of being stuck? There is a certain reality for many people of being stuck in a dead-end job. Unfortunately, not everyone has the passion, enthusiasm, and will to get unstuck. Sadly, too many people embrace this sad state of affairs and only live after work hours and on the weekend. This is more than problematic; life is too short to just live on the weekends with the perceived walk of death called Monday morning always lurking around the corner.
So, what are some things that those around us are doing to never get stuck? Or when they find themselves getting stuck, what tools and strategies do they use to get unstuck and move on to bigger and better things? Those whom I see who are able to get unstuck are the ones that are fluid and flexible. They are people who don’t get bent out of shape at the least issue or challenge. They are the ones that roll with the punches.
Simply put, these are the people who are willing to reinvent themselves when the idea of being stuck presents itself. They are eager to start a new chapter in their life. If there is a new position posting within their company, they are jumping at the opportunity. They are the individuals who stay connected to the movers and shakers. They are networking outside of their companies, and they are offering their assistance to colleagues in need. They even go where the opportunities of growth exist, even if that means packing their families up and relocating. They welcome celebrating the chance at getting better even at the cost of rejection! Failing is worn as a badge of honor, not something to be ashamed of.
Cut from a different fabric, those that rarely get stuck live by the creed of “failure is not final or fatal.” Think of those in your circle, a family member, colleague, or neighbor. It doesn’t matter how arduous the situation, we can all be assured that they will come out the other side on their feet. Now, this doesn’t mean they win every race or land every job quest they engage. What it does mean, however, is that they use everything that’s given to them. They take the lessons that are valuable and leverage them in layers for the next conquest.
The perfect public example we’ve all heard of and can relate to in one way or another … is Oprah Winfrey. When she decided it was time to do something outside of the talk show, she created her own magazine that adorns her face each and every month since its launch in April 2000. Next, wanting to give back on an even larger scale, she built a school in South Africa for girls. If that wasn’t enough, she also developed and created her own television network called OWN.
How are you getting unstuck? How are you using the challenges of the day, week, and month to reinvent yourself? Life is a constantly changing, where we evolve and grow through the lessons. Welcome the new chapters in your life because the unexpected has a special way of sparkling at us with a smile.
Share how either you or someone close to you got unstuck by embracing the reinvention of self. What are some of your tools and strategies? Let us know via Twitter and tag @empowermee and @SOTGC in your post. We would love to share how you now view winning!