Hello SOTGC community,
Competition is the norm; we are consumed with the notion that we must win. Win what? Everything! Sometimes it all begins at home when we compared ourselves with either our siblings or our cousins. The conversation could have sounded like this: “Why can’t you be more like your sister?” Then, in school, we are bombarded with those who are the smartest because these titles came with certain privileges, like being the teacher’s helper for the week, going to recess first, passing out papers, and running all errands.
Then, as the years passed, the older we got the more things became competitive. We must not forget sports. An area where winning is the pinnacle, the ultimate example of being the very best! We were in a flurry of commercials and advertisements when the NBA finals started along with the beginning of the WNBA season. The quest for the Stanley Cup, and who hasn’t heard about Serena Williams winning her 20th title after winning the French Open? Not to mention on the largest stage here in the United States, we’re all watching as the Presidential candidates for 2016 begin their drive for the title of Commander in Chief.
Winning is a part of our history, our make-up, and our lives. Winning isn’t a bad thing, it’s just the way we view winning that is bad. However, I do understand that in certain instances there has to be a winner. Fortunately, there is another way to incorporate our fascination with winning. Just think of how effective and efficient we could all be if we went into every situation with a different attitude about winning. Is it possible to approach life from the view … that we can all win?
This win-win concept is something that Dr. Stephen R. Covey speaks of in his bestselling book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. This paradigm is introduced for you and me to consider as the idea of mutual benefit. It invites us to consider how we can aid wins for everyone. I remember sharing the same perspective during my TEDxBuffaloWomen talk. Where I assured the women in the audience that there was enough to go around for all. Too often winning becomes a desperate way of thinking and acting, which leaves us operating out of a deficit mentality.
Functioning from a win-win paradigm affords us all the opportunity to pour into the lives of those around us. It opens the door for more cooperation and collegiality. Being supportive of others’ wins and embracing them genuinely creates an atmosphere of respect, trust, and abundance, which encourage the feelings of living outside of comparisons. Because when we compare … something or someone is devalued!
Think of a relationship that could benefit from win-win thinking. Then develop a way to support that individual’s situation to make it a win for everyone! Let us know via Twitter and tag @empowermee and @SOTGC in your post. As we would love to share how you now view winning!