Hello SOTGC community,
It’s past time for us as a society to take a pause. It’s not enough to say that we’re talking about it because we have been talking about it for a long time and there still seems to be no real movement. Movement on what, you may be asking yourself right now. Or, some of you may have a few things in mind.
I’m talking about inequity: separate but not equal! We should all be put off by the mere fact that we’re still fighting, standing, and advocating for equal pay, parity in Congress, and more executive leadership positions for women. The facts are real: women make up 51% of the US population, 60% of college graduates, 47% of the work force, and 51% of voters. However, we hold only 18% of the top leadership positions across various sectors.
Could it be that we as women are not comfortable with the title of being “powerful”? I was having a conversation with a sister-friend and she shared that she applied for a position that she’s more than qualified for. She received notice that she made it to the final round of interviews and was told by a woman in the position of power to hire her that she’s a perfect fit for the position. This made my friend uncomfortable, so much so that she assured the administrator that she would pour herself into this final interview and encouraged the administrator to look at other candidates.
Now ladies, I get it, we want to earn everything we get. Unfortunately, that’s the rule and never the exception when it comes to us and how we move up the ladder of leadership and success. I listened to my friend as she asked for my opinion on her presentation. It was as if she was like a new professional in the field convincing herself that she was worthy. Not like someone with over fifteen years of experience and certifications in three different states. Finally, I couldn’t hold back any longer. I explained to her that the administrator clearly sees what I and others see in her abilities and skills. I shared how she shouldn’t shy away from someone standing in the gap for her and willing to extend her the opportunity that she has a plethora experience within.
As women we embrace so many different roles in our personal and professional lives. However, when it comes to owning our “power” we seem to back down from the notion as if it’s a bad thing. When asked, many women are reluctant to say they’re powerful—even those that hold powerful positions and titles. I realize we have witnessed many bad examples of power being misused, abused or both. Nonetheless, things can change only if we are at the Titans’ table offering a different perspective and making room for other powerful women to join the club. Power unused is useless power! There is nothing wrong with owning our power, which can come in difference forms such as strategic, economic, intellectual, mental, and physical power to name a few. This doesn’t mean that we’re subscribing to the impression that we are perfect and have all the answers.
Embracing our power simply means that we are interested in making the world a better place by using our time, talents, and treasures to pour into our families, friends, and communities. When it’s all said and done, it’s not about having power “over” someone or something … it’s about empowering!