Hello SOTGC community,
As we approach the holiday season, there will be many people stressing about what gifts to buy family members. We will create an initial list of those most important to us, including our spouses, children, siblings, grandparents, nieces, and nephews. Then we will need to get a gift for the Secret Santa Exchange at the office holiday party, not to mention, the gifts for the community foundation and church events we attend as well.
With all of this on our plates, we privately say to ourselves, “I’ll be lucky to have enough time, energy, and money to get all of these tasks completed.” This, additionally, does not include preparing a feast fit for our families. All too often we are caught up in the commercialism of the holiday season, paying more attention to the symbolism instead of the substance … love! We show or connect our love with the amount of gifts we give and/or the tag attached, never realizing that there is no price tag that could ever replace the genuine and authentic love we have for those in our lives.
Think of the gifts that truly come from the heart and have significant meaning. They’re the gifts that represent something bigger than Michael Kors, Guess, Uggs and Macy’s. Remember when you received that homemade card from your child, niece, or nephew in kindergarten? It was a piece of construction paper folded in half. There was some kind of object on the front like a skinny Turkey. The message inside was hand written with those big Crayola crayons and it simply melted your heart.
Think of how moving it would be for us to begin showing our love in ways that last beyond a few days, giving our young people other examples to follow as they become loving. Giving is an awesome and rewarding feeling! However, in what ways can we expand our giving and show love to those outside of our inner circles? We could adopt a class, invite another family over for dinner, have our children buy a gift for another child, or opt to exchange items that are homemade instead of store bought.
I invite us all to think of ways to show our love every day and not just during the holiday season. Commit to sending a “thinking of you” card to someone each month or a hand written note. Implementing your own personal version of “With Love, Not Tags” can be a family tradition. Maybe it’s something your book club or women’s group would like to incorporate? The point is very simply … love is much more powerful and impactful than any tag from a gift, no matter the season!
Life is short, so how will you show Love year round?
Share your family rituals of how Love is shown in nontraditional ways and how others are included in that Love.