Hello SOTGC community.
When the year 2014 came to an end, I was reviewing all the wins and the occasional surprises in my life when I thought to myself, “Well, that could have gone better.” A few of those surprises stuck with me, and I started reflecting upon those situations and why they happened to me. Some things happened in my personal life that I wish I could have foreseen or that maybe, if I knew they were coming, I would have acted differently. Of course, my friends and family were right there with me trying to lift my spirits with kind, positive words, but what stuck with me was this: With me being so aware, how could I have not seen this?
Then I talked to somebody who put it all together for me. Sometimes it is not about the destination as much as it is about the journey. What if I were to tell you that some things don’t need an explanation? What if we try to accept the situation and say, “It is what it is.” I sat there perplexed. I was always of the conviction that every situation is trying to tell you something, so why shouldn’t we analyze things? In some instances, it very well could be, but, in others, it could simply happen so that we can change or adjust our convictions.
Take, for example, that you are convinced you should always work out in the morning but you do a trial week and start working out in the evening. After a week you decide that it simply doesn’t make you feel the way a morning workout does. You don’t think you have enough energy for the day and by the end of the day you are too tired to do cardio. Neither is wrong and for different people different things will be right, but the difference is that you needed to experience something so you can now tell what is more appropriate for just YOU.
The saying that we don’t meet people for no reason and that things don’t just happen to us still holds up, but sometimes we might not see the answer right away. What I am trying to take away from this is that we are way too hard on ourselves, and it is important to know your self-worth and that, above all, you are who you are – which is just right and BEAUTIFUL.
Join me in doing some self-reflecting, but let’s try be as uplifting to ourselves as we are to our best friends. Authenticity comes within. Don’t try to be someone else because those roles are already taken 🙂