Hello SOTGC community,
Do you ever go to work and continue to physically do your job but find that your mind is occupied with all the things that happen at home? “I can’t believe I got in a fight with my mother,” “My boyfriend didn’t call me last night,” “My kid was up all night with a tummy ache,” or, “I still need to finish that laundry, do the dishes, and let’s not forget to pay the bills.”
Whatever it is, sometimes it is hard to separate our home from our work. We often call our lives the work-life balance but what if we change it to home-life balance?
If we think that we can separate the two, we are already failing ourselves because the two have a direct impact on each other. If you stay too long at work and miss dinner with your family you will hear it and vice versa if you are running late because you have a sick child at home. It does make it a bit more difficult.
So how do we strike the appropriate balance between the two?
I found myself recently in this quandary when a fight I had with somebody was occupying my mind. As much as I would have liked to forget about it, I kept analyzing the situation and wondering what I should do next. So I knew I had to make a decision if I wanted at all to stay focused on the task at hand. I wrote myself a note detailing how I was going to handle the situation and what I would do. I know that some things are easier to tackle than others, so this might not be applicable to everybody, but if you do this, at least you are attempting to declutter your thoughts. We all have, at some point, something that simply bothers us, and we cannot seem to pick up a better mood or even try to forget about what happened. Despite the fact that I had now made up my mind, I somehow still wasn’t convinced that I was truly doing the right thing. So I opened up to a friend of mine who I knew would give me an objective perspective and might be able to give me more peace of mind. Sometimes, we all need to let out our frustration so we can move forward. We bottle things up for the sake of being professional, but it’s okay to let it out so we can then move in a positive way forward. We all know we can’t change things that happened in the past, so revisiting and wishing I had not said this or that or I wishing I had not reacted a certain way was not going to help the situation.
So don’t feel bad the next time your mind is preoccupied. Instead, find ways to put your mind at ease and stay focused on what you need to get done. We are all human after all, and our home situation is just as important as the project we oversee every day.
Have you ever experienced a similar situation? How did you get focused? Join the SOTGC community and let us know how others can benefit from your tactics.