Hello SOTGC community,
I WANT YOU TO BE BETTER THAN ME. Yes, I said it. Competition is great and many times healthy, but competition has not made the same impact as helping others become better than me. I’m not promising that it will always go positively (because not everyone in this world is pleasant), but I do believe that it will make you a stronger leader.
If your efforts are genuine, then you will establish a relationship and a trusting one at that. If you already know the person, then the relationship will only improve. Maybe this is just a quirky habit, but I tend to look for strengths and listen to hopes and dreams of my family, friends, and colleagues. I use these mental notes to connect people to each other, and, in return, others tend to want to connect me to their contacts. Relationships are about helping each other without expectations, right?
Helping others become better than you means providing honest constructive feedback. As your friends, family, and colleagues start realizing that your perspective is beneficial to them, their respect for you will grow. They will start approaching you, knowing that you have their best interest in mind, and sometimes it just feels good to help others.
It’s also crucial to believe in others even especially when they don’t believe in themselves. I think everyone has the potential to grow, and sometimes his or her fears can stunt it. As you believe in others, you instill a sense of value that can ultimately change their lives (even if it’s just a tiny piece). As a child, I remember my coach telling me, “If I don’t believe in you, someone else will.” I didn’t know it was in me until she pointed it out. I was incredibly thankful that she saw my worth, so you might as well be the one to step up to the plate before someone else does.
As you develop others, you are also developing yourself. Think about it: You are more influential than you were before because others trust you, they respect your perspective, and they are grateful for your confidence in them. Every individual has a unique contribution, and if you help everyone become better than you, then you have just built a network of super skills that will likely be more advantageous than if you were to try to do it all alone.
Think of a time when someone has helped you become a better version of yourself, and share the impact along with the link to this article.