Hello SOTGC community,
For a while now, I have noticed that I am not very good at handling compliments. When somebody says, “You look beautiful today” or, “You should smile more often because it suits you,” why do I struggle with simply taking it for what it’s worth? In a recent fitness magazine poll, only 21% of us would call ourselves beautiful while 56% would say that about somebody else. So, why are we so hard on ourselves?
Social media has certainly played a big part in what we define as beautiful: the perfect small nose with just five freckles because anything more than that is just not acceptable and, of course, how could you ever leave the house without doing your hair? We tend to look at somebody’s profile picture and immediately start comparing ourselves to them. Back in the day, we used to take one picture with our Kodak cameras, and, now, with the luxury of our iPhones, we take about five to eight pictures before we find the “one” pic where our smile is not too big, we don’t have a double chin, and the hair is just brushing ever so slightly over our face. How exhausting is that just reading it? I have certainly been there and, now that I think about it, I have to laugh. Of course nobody wants an unflattering image, but let’s start spreading the love and let the moment of happiness shine through versus being so concerned with the perfect picture. It should be more about capturing the moment that will remind us of how we felt ….
Let’s start together by embracing what we have. Stretch marks? Sure! They are evidence for carrying a child. It was a home for nine months to a baby. Scars? Sure! They are a sign of me sailing and trying to give it my all because the spinnaker wouldn’t untwist so my body took a beating. And, finally, whether you are tall, short, a size two or size ten; YOU are beautiful! Replace the flaws you see in yourself and replace them with what unique abilities you have. Could my fingers be “skinnier”? yes, perhaps, but I also know they type, hold hands, and are the very labor of some amazing dishes I have created.
Next time you and your friends get together, create a “no negative” talk rule and play songs that will make your feel good about yourself. Songs come to mind such as Alicia Keys – Woman On Fire, India Arie – Video, and Banks – Stick. There is even a positive correlation between starting your mornings with some reggae and your overall outlook for the whole day, so, I say, why not try it!
Remember that what you don’t like about yourself may be what somebody else sees as the whole world in you. We all can use a bit of a self-reminder at times. Food is not our enemy and shouldn’t be treated as such. Working out is not just for people who want to lose weight, but it’s about finding mental and physical peace after a long day. Finding a happy balance is the key, so don’t make it a chore.
I challenge all of us to love our strong legs and stop being afraid of eating dessert. You miss out on the world’s amazing foods. Imagine if you couldn’t taste, how less blissful this world would be. Next time you look in the mirror, say to yourself, “Da#n, I look good today!”
Embrace your curves, and you will see how your self-esteem will go from subpar to confident. Reply with an image of yourself of what makes you feel beautiful. Maybe it’s a yoga pose, or maybe it’s a silly picture with your dog. I can’t wait to see what you will share.
Photo credit:Nick Cardamone-Nicholas Cardamone Photography (Instagram: @nickychops)