Hello SOTGC community,
That one thing. That one amazing, spectacular thing you just can’t bring yourself to buy for sweet, lil’ ol’ you. It’s too expensive, you don’t really need it, it’s not the right time, you’re not worth it, and the red carpet of excuses continues to roll out.
This dynamic doesn’t only exist in the realm of things, but also in the ways we choose to (or choose not to) love ourselves. For me, this “thing” is calm.
I don’t have enough time, I don’t really need it, I’ll do it later, I’m not worth it …. Sound familiar?
Little do we know that giving ourselves the gift of turning down the volume of life to a faint murmur and allowing the magic of stillness to thread a connection throughout our mind, body and sweet, sweet soul is important.
When we allow ourselves to revel in silence, it’s powerful. We wonder why it took us so long to get there. Why is something so simple, so difficult to do?
Because it’s more than just a choice, it’s an act of self-love. You have to create your own calm.
Here are three things that have helped me create a daily wave of calm in my life:
Take Action to Activate Serenity: It takes action. We have to put life on pause, sit ourselves down, give ourselves permission to release the oversized load of a to-do list, turn the TV off, surrender the computer screen, set a boundary only silence can penetrate, and let the blissful sense of calm wash over us like a tidal wave, taking the weight off our shoulders, releasing the tension from our stressed forehead and washing away our worry-filled mind.
Give Yourself Permission: We crave the ebb to our flow, but we rarely give it to ourselves. Give yourself the green light to take the weekend to really refresh and not just do what you need to do to attack the week ahead. Go to that yoga class. Sit and meditate. Go for a walk and breathe in the fresh air. It’s so important to replenish to be able to live our most spectacular, firework show of a life, to live our purpose and give what only we can give to the world.
Let go of the go-go-go: If you are exhausted, drained, and find all of your pride in the go-go-go, realize that what you gain in this identity, you take away from relationships in your life, commitments, and, most importantly, you drown out the call of your soul to settle in the valleys of your constant peaks. Let go of the identity and take a moment to reflect on where you stand in the story of your life and if your go-go-go is in the direction you ultimately want to head.
So the question is, will you love your phenomenal self by slowing down to reflect, to connect, restore your super powers and replenish the goodness of you?
Truth is, you do have time, you are worth it, and you do need it because the world needs you!
Give yourself the gift of calm.