Hello SOTGC community,
In my job I am fortunate enough to travel quite a bit, and, occasionally, there is that one trip where I will fly out on my own. So, imagine a girl all by herself in a new city with nobody to lean on or, even worse, has to eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner by herself. Until a recent trip, I dreaded these trips. I was worried about what people will think, or even having to say, “yes, table for one please.”
I knew I had a choice: I could hide in my hotel room and simply get some take out, or I could have some fun exploring the city. I mean Crossfit even tells you to look them up in whatever city you are in so you can join them wherever you are.
With the mentality of “I am ready to explore,” I went to dinner by myself. I knew the restaurant as it is my favorite in the whole country (La Rioja- Denver) and I was not about to leave without having eaten there. I drove my car, parked, and asked for a table … I ended up sitting at the bar overseeing the chef preparing the food and talking to couples sitting to the left and right of me. Sure enough they did ask me why I was by myself but they applauded that I came out. I had the chance to get to know new people and their life stories.
I know that getting out of your comfort zone can be difficult at times, but I think we play all the different possibilities out in our heads and spiral down into a negative experience instead of embracing that we can simply people watch and eat by ourselves. In my case, the hostess stopped by every so often to just have a chat with me. I even got a complementary sample (the perks of eating by yourself).
If you are open to new experiences and getting to know new people, you might find that life has the right kind of spice. That day, I met four new people and even exchanged business cards. We are all social animals so why do we limit ourselves because we are too afraid about what other might think? I challenge all of us to explore a city, a restaurant, a class on our own. It is less scary than what we make it out to be.
It took me a while to get out of my comfort zone and embrace once in a while a “solo” day, but I felt as if I could hug the world afterwards. My sense of adventure made me feel alive. Join the SOTGC community and tell us what you conquered by yourself. Was it a new city? Did you buy a house by yourself? Or maybe you just went on a walk by yourself. Whatever it is, share it with us and inspire women across the country.