Hello SOTGC community,
Let me tell you something about being a writer: If you are in it for the money, you will never find the joy that writing can bring. The money may come, big stress on the “may.” The hope is that there will be a big payoff and your writing will be the greatest piece of work that anyone has ever written, but the reality is, that if you are solely in it for the money, you will begin to resent it. Then, your work will suffer. And, then you will have no money and no writing.
I write because I love it. I’ve not always been fortunate to make my living as a writer, but when I was a secretary/house cleaner/reader of books on tape and the dozens of other jobs I’ve held, I still wrote for me.
I kept a journal and guest blogged and thought the day I got a byline was the biggest success in my life. And, for that day it was.
But it hasn’t been an easy ride. There is money in writing, now more than ever I feel, but unless you are very, very lucky, you don’t just fall into its success. You have to toughen up, plow ahead, and dig your way there.
It seems easier said than done, and that’s true. I am always learning and going after that next goal. I still have a lot of work to do, but I have learned some things on this writer’s journey:
- I learned how to handle rejection. Okay, maybe I’m still easing into this one, but not everyone is going to like what you do or how you do it. It’s important to remember that it’s not personal. Build the confidence to stand behind your process. There is always room for improvement, no doubt, but if someone does not like your work, it doesn’t mean that it’s worthless.
- I learned to reflect and pray. No matter what religion you are or if you don’t have a religion at all, you can still take a moment and reflect on what you want to do, really focus your intention on it. Sometimes you have the answers, sometimes it’s God, and sometimes it’s some random stranger at the grocery store who somehow says just the right thing at the right time. When you hit the rough patches, it might be easy to want to quit and try something else. Take a moment and ask yourself if this is what you really want to do. Clear your mind and listen for the answer.
- I learned how to build my voice. Change the way you talk to yourself and to others. Don’t oversell yourself, but don’t discredit yourself either. You don’t need anyone to validate what you do or wait for anyone to give you a title. Be proud of your unique voice, work hard, and stand strong behind it.
- I learned how to count my wins. As women with high ambitions, we are always aiming for success. We have our eye on the prize, so to speak. I’ve learned though not to miss out acknowledging the small wins. It makes the journey that much easier knowing that along the way to the big goal, there are achievements that I worked hard for that got me there. And no matter how small they are, they are important, too.
- I learned how to surround myself with positive people. You don’t want to surround yourself with “yes” people who will agree with everything you do whether they think it’s right or not. You want people who will be honest while having your best interest at heart. However, you do want to be around positive people. Take an inventory of the people in your circle: your family, your friends, acquaintances, co-workers and evaluate your relationship with them. If it’s based on drama, negativity, and fighting, then those relationships can drain your energy without you even realizing it. Slowly back away.
This is about my writing journey, but it can apply to anyone who is going after a dream and facing obstacles along the way…which is nearly everyone!
I’d love for you to share your success stories – big or small – with me! Tweet them to me at: @mscourtneybeth.