Hello SOTGC community,
“Is it bad that I don’t want to get married yet?” A friend actually asked this question, and my mind went racing as I realized the burning pressure of your twenties.
I wanted to scream “NO!!!” at the top of my lungs but quickly realized that I too have felt guilty for not being able to “keep up” with everyone else around me. At 26, I have somehow managed to falter under the expectation that I must get married, own a home, and have kids; all while being completely career driven and being able to afford extravagant vacations. [Disclaimer: For all my friends out there who have been able to happily check these off of your list, I have the utmost respect for you for going after your goals!]
After a pathetic “yeah, I know how you feel.” I immediately blurted out, “NO! You know what, don’t feel guilty! You’re not supposed to get married because all of your friends are married. You’re supposed to get married because YOU want to get married and YOU are ready for it.” It was easy to say in my matter-of-fact attitude but I couldn’t push the thought of “keeping up with our friends” out my mind.
After staring at my Facebook newsfeed, it finally made sense to me. A lot of my friends are growing up. BIG amazing things are happening in their lives; however, BIG amazing things were happening in my life too! I was selling my goals short because it wasn’t what everyone else was doing – for example, I wanted to only develop myself personally and professionally instead of having a family or doing both. I wasn’t behind in life because I CHOSE to have my own personal timeline for MY milestones.
Spend your twenties celebrating your friends’ new life chapters but don’t fret that you’re not writing the same chapters. Fill your book with adventure, life lessons, and beautiful moments in any order that you want. Don’t worry about everyone else’s timeline because your story is just as good.
If this post inspired you to follow your own timeline, then please join the Women In Business conversation going on in our SOTGC Society LinkedIn group.