Hello SOTGC community!
Whether you’re 10 years old in the playground, or 85 years old in a coffee shop, whether you’re dressed in your favorite flannel pajamas munching on popcorn, or dressed to impress sipping on fine wine, whether you just landed your dream job or had the most awkward first date of your life, “girl talk” has the power to heal.
As part of my medical school curriculum, I recently finished my 6-week clinical rotation in psychiatry. It quickly became evident that amongst all the therapeutic interventions that are available, it is sometimes simply the act of allowing a patient the opportunity to talk through their thoughts, emotions, and fears, and listening thoughtfully in return, that offers the most therapeutic benefit.
Last week, after an evening out with some dear friends of mine, I realized that “girl talk” amongst best friends is not very different than the most elaborate of cognitive therapies; this notion made me smile and serves as inspiration for this post today. I think it is beautiful that something as innate as some “girl talk” amongst friends can, in fact, serve us so well in terms of offering us an opportunity to therapeutically decipher through our life experiences, our emotions, our fears, our dreams, and our thoughts.
A good heart-to-heart with a caring friend can offer validation for those times when you are unsure of your plans, encouragement for those times that are particularly challenging, and consolation for those times that simply don’t turn out as planned. Similarly, once and a while, all you need is to merely vent about a bad day; get your worries, angers and fears “off your chest” so to speak. Talking to a friend offers us all of this and more.
By sharing your thoughts and experiences with someone else, you can find comfort in the fact that you are not alone in your struggle, in your joy, in your indecisiveness, whatever the situation may be. It can be so comforting, and, at times, even cathartic to know you are not forced to keep something inside or to yourself.
“Girl talk” also allows you to hear your thoughts and emotions out loud as you express them to others. This in and of itself can be therapeutic in nature, bringing thoughts from the back of your mind to the forefront, offering a certain degree of added reflection, and, in turn, allowing for greater introspection and insight.
Similar to taking a long bubble bath or practicing yoga, I believe that we should view “girl talk” as a strategy for rendering us resilient in our journey through life. Next time things get tough or you need some added encouragement or advice, turn to your closest girlfriends for some “girl talk” therapy and find comfort in the smiles, laughs, tears, and even “eureka moments” that surface as a result.
I leave you with one of my favorite quotes on friendship by the author Anaïs Nin; “Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.” Cherish your closest friendships and reap the benefits of “girl talk” therapy throughout your life …. Sometimes it is exactly what the soul and spirit are craving and need.
My dearest SOTGC community, I hope this post has inspired you to embrace the “girl talk” therapy as a viable strategy towards greater emotional resilience in life! If this post resonated with you, share it with your friends, family, and colleagues on Facebook and Twitter! We’d also love to hear what you think about “girl talk” as a therapeutic strategy and how your group of friends supports one another! Feel free to share your experiences with us in the comment section below.