Hello SOTGC community,
I found myself watching a documentary this week on the winter in Yosemite National Park. While there were many fascinating things to learn, it was the hunting behavior of one species of animal, the wolf, that particularly caught my attention.
While this would normally be the point where I would change the channel – I do not take very well to watching the demise of any living creature, Darwinian logic aside – I decided to continue to watch. It was interesting to learn that wolves often hunt for large prey, and they do this collectively. The degree to which they successfully make a catch is due largely to the fact that they work together.
This got me to thinking: if we humans only adopted the same strategy sometimes, perhaps we would be more successful. Whether you are trying to make a killing (no pun intended) in your business, want to lose 50 pounds, lower your golf handicap, or become a better executive leader, it may behoove you to enlist some help along the way…after all, we know there can be so much strength in numbers.
There are many professionals out there that can help – personal trainers, financial advisors, spiritual teachers, life/wellness coaches, language tutors, executive coaches/mentors, athletic coaches, etc. If you have an important goal that you wish to achieve in life, you might want one on your side. Or, like Joe Cocker sang it, you can always get by with a little help from your friends (or family, coworkers, neighbors…you get the idea.)
Humans are social, interdependent creatures, and we thrive when we work together. I would like to think that many of the world’s problems might just be solved if we realize the impact of collaboration and cooperation. Collective humanitarian success aside, there is much to be said for seeking help in order to benefit independent or personal gain. Asking for and/or seeking help can be difficult for some people; admittedly so, it has been for me at times.
In my experience working with others, those that find it the most challenging tend to hold the belief that asking for help is a sign of weakness or failure. It helps to realize that this is the ego speaking, trying to uphold its self-preserving and self-aggrandizing nature. It also doesn’t help that our society has done a good job of perpetuating the “every man for himself” paradigm, which tends to support a solo approach to the top.
The truth of the matter is that enlisting the help of others is actually a sign of strength, and intelligence I might add. Even though it might take some initial courage (and checking your ego at the door,) it means that you recognize that in order to reach some goals effectively and more efficiently (and with a heck of a lot less stress,) it helps to have someone on your team, at least for part of the ride.
For those of you that still aren’t convinced, I want to remind you that some of the most successful and powerful people (world leaders, CEOs, professional athletes) in the world have help in the form of coaches, advisors, and mentors. If it works for them, perhaps it could work for you too!
We would love to hear your thoughts.