Hello SOTGC community,
I’m learning how truly gorgeous and thrilling are our womanly curves vs. our young girl straight lines. I’m also experiencing what positive attributes and suggestions are portrayed in the very substance of our bodies. There have been many times I’ve unintelligently cursed the “linebacker” legs and “junk in the trunk” I’ve been blessed with when attempting to buy jeans and bathing suits. I’ve even been brought to tears over the frustration! (Silly, I know, but true.) Can I get an “Amen!” up in here?
When was the last time you stood bare in front of a mirror and admired the lines of your body and what they mean? Well, it’s time if you never have and if it’s been awhile. It’s also time to change the message you tell yourself if you berate your sturdy thighs, vague 4 pack vs. perfect 6 pack tummy and hips that are wider than your waist. And finally, if you’ve still got it all, just in different places it’s time to learn why and how to love all those awesome parts again.
I’ve been super fit as a young athlete, not so fit and trim as a result of stress induced hormone imbalances and just about everywhere in between as a corporette on the rise spending too much time in my car, at a desk, over rich meals with clients and not getting the proper amount of sleep or exercise. Today, I’m learning the critical importance of balance and ultimate lifelong health of both my body and mind and how my mind affects my body. When these two powerful machines join forces, the outcome is positively unstoppable on all fronts!
Through my own personal struggle against unhealthy weight gain and a twisted, negative body image I’ve come to deeply appreciate and respect the awesome machine that is the human body and the especially wonderful things of which the female body is capable like reproducing life. One of my friends responded so fantastically to her husband when he was giving her a hard time about how often she was eating when pregnant, “Uh, hello, growing a human here (pointing to her baby bump)… I’m pretty awesome!”. In that moment, whether she realized it or not, she spoke honest truth and her husband LOVED it!
As many of you know, I’m very newly married (to quite possibly the most incredible human being God EVER created. Please excuse my bias). Before our wedding I had what I think are the normal visions of being a slender, fit, blushing bride – down at least a size or two from my average, not completely ideal, over the past couple of years.
A couple weeks before the wedding my prince and I were out for a little run and we usually have great conversations while running together, this day was no exception. I had come to realize that my new schedule and immediate goals of expanding my business and becoming completely debt free were requiring significant enough time that I was unable to do the two-a-day workouts and strict eating schedule that had previously allowed me to achieve my physical goals. Instead of feeling completely defeated and sorrowful that on my wedding day I wouldn’t have my “dream body”, I joyfully accepted the softer curves I own that are still healthy and strong. I also was excited that I was in the process of achieving my best life yet, all the way around and my physical goals would be reached through a committed process as well, just not as soon as I originally hoped. I shared my new love of my body as it is with him because I knew he sees me as completely beautiful just as I am. Ladies, right there on the street in the middle of a run with sweat running down our brows he stopped dead in his tracks, scooped me up and pulled me into him and laid the most passionate kiss on me! Then he exclaimed, “That’s the best news I could hear all year!” He LOVED that I felt confident and beautiful even though I have personal progress to achieve. And he adores my curves – they are adventurous!
Do you know that studies actually prove men go crazy over our curves? It’s true! The title of one article regarding an important study conducted right here in my current hometown of Austin, TX says a great deal, “Men lust for hourglass curves say researchers” and have since the beginning of time. http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/1539035/Men-lust-for-hourglass-curves-say-researchers.html
In feeling great right where we are, we exude confidence that becomes wildly attractive to others. It has been scientifically proven that our mature, womanly curves which come in ALL sizes suggest fertility and health.
Credit: Lisa Holmes
So many things impact our self-image, our body perception, our understanding of “sexy” and beautiful. Many things we allow to distort that perspective. Per a recent and very candid text conversation with our petite framed wonder woman SOTGC founder Marney, I was reminded that our journey with our feminine bodies is universal and worth discussing. How many things impact the changes in our bodies as we grow from young girls to teens to fully developed women? Lifestyle, upbringing, tongue pallet development, culture, genetics, hormone changes, child bearing, breast feeding, stress, trauma, joy, financial abundance and lack, education… To none of these things are we a slave but through self-awareness, kindness toward ourselves and understanding of how to be as healthy possible we can achieve the ultimate “body beautiful”.
So join me back here next time when discuss a little more in depth practical ways to conquer the negative self-talk, up our positive body image a few notches and begin to see real and lasting loveliness in our reflections.