Hello SOTGC community,
So, you’ve accepted an assignment, task or project and midway through you realize that the payout, no matter how great it is, just isn’t worth the stress and agony that it is causing. You dread getting up and going to work; you lose sleep over it; and find yourself unhappy, exhausted and unmotivated. Here are a few pointers on how to master the hurdles of a thankless assignment or task while keeping your sanity.What is the root of your frustration?
Do you possess the necessary skills and resources to complete the job successfully?
If you answered “No”, who can you team up with that has the necessary skills and resources to produce great results? Can you bring in another person in your company that has a different specialty or expertise? Or could you team with an outside agency to make sure the project is done correctly?
If you answered “Yes”, take a look at the steps below.
- Be strategic, rather than tactical. Women tend to be more motivated, produce better results, and have greater satisfaction when they understand the big picture or vision behind what they are asked to do. Instead of looking at a long list of never-ending “to-dos” and getting overwhelmed, try to focus on what completing each task will provide in terms of the big picture. For example, doing the dishes is a task that I have never enjoyed – in fact, I detest it! But I love to cook and I value cleanliness. A dirty kitchen with a sink full of dishes grosses me out and stresses me out. While I don’t enjoy the actual task of cleaning the dishes, I feel a sense of satisfaction and peace once they are washed and put away. By focusing on how great it feels to have cooked a nutritious meal and have a clean kitchen, I am able view the task of dish washing in a new light.
- Look for an opportunity to grow and change – this will allow you to be less likely to get stuck in a similar predicament in the future. When evaluating the root of your frustration (in Step 1) look deep and recognize what is really pushing your buttons. I recently had a client that would not return my emails or phone calls promptly. In turn, their requests were always last minute “emergencies”. While their procrastination was annoying and inconvenient, it wasn’t the root of my anxiety. The root of my anxiety actually stemmed from my desire to be perfect and my personalization of the situation. When presented with a series of “emergency” tasks with less than adequate time to complete them, the odds of being less than perfect increase. I consistently reminded the client of what an adequate timeline would look like, but I never turned down his emergency requests. After all, the “perfect” person would be able to do it all – right? Additionally, I began to become offended by all of the last minute projects because I felt that the consistent procrastination was disrespectful. Really, it was my personalization of the situation that contributed to my hurt feelings and frustration. In reality, this person did not wake up in the morning with the intent of disrespecting anyone’s time – this particular individual just really struggled with planning and time management. Once I realized this and stopped making myself disposable to the last minute emergency deadlines I was a lot happier and the client’s behavior changed. Once he realized that I would no longer succumb to his unrealistic demands, he began making requests in advance.
Unpleasant tasks, people and situations will continually arise in our work lives and personal lives; but the good news is that they don’t have to cause stress or wreak havoc.
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