Hello SOTGC community,
Do you want to improve your social life? Boost your networking capabilities? How about having more meaningful interactions with others?
Whether the relationship you wish to cultivate is for business, romantic nature, family, or friendly, here are some key pointers that can help you make a good connection:
Put in the time. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither are good relationships.
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Listen, and by that, I mean give your full attention. Are you multitasking when you are talking to someone on the phone? (By the way, people can sense this, even if you think you are being sly). Do you maintain eye contact when speaking to someone? Do you stop what you are doing when someone wants to speak with you? Are you waiting for them to stop talking so you can make your point? Think about the ways in which you can give your full attention to others…it will make a huge difference in how you are received, and also how you will make other people feel about your interest in the interaction.
Ask questions. When we take interest in others, it is often reflected back to us. Also, see if you can ask some that are more interesting than, “what do you do?”… boring! And then, when you do ask…
Remember details. This tip alone can do wonders for your personal and business life. It feels wonderful when another person remembers those little details (like names, a fun trip they have planned, that their child plays soccer, etc), which can help build a rapport. It also helps to…
Establish trust. This is done by behaving with honesty, integrity, and also by opening yourself up to reveal your humanness (vulnerability is not synonymous with weakness).
Have a giving mindset. When we focus on how we can be of service to another person, we create a sense of openness within ourselves. When you shift from ‘what’s in it for me’, to ‘how can I be of service’, you will be amazed how much more you will truly connect with others.
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While those may seem like common sense, I honestly believe that we would all experience higher levels of satisfaction across all types of relationships if we paid attention to those six guidelines.
**Although the emphasis of this article has been on developing relationships with others, I feel that this needs to be said as well: the most important relationship you have to cultivate is with yourself. If you can apply some of those guidelines to getting to know yourself better, the relationships you do cultivate will be far more powerful.
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