Good morning SOTGC readers. I thought this would be a great follow-up to the post yesterday from my father. Everyone has their role models and heroes in life and yes it is very cliché to say, but my father is mine. My Dad comes from a large family and did not, shall we say, “grow up with a silver spoon in his mouth”. He started working at a very young age and to this day I have almost never seen my Dad “not doing something productive” unless Mom is able to get him to sit down for a movie with the family.
After getting out of the Army with a Purple Heart in Vietnam he enrolled in college, where he met my mother, graduated from the HAAS Business School at UCB, went to law school, and has been practicing in Ramona for the past 34 years. Growing up it was drilled into my brother and I that we did not have to work in life, but if we wanted money to do the things we enjoyed, then we had to work for it. We also learned that the better job you did and the harder you worked, the more you could earn. My father has spent the last 31 years patiently teaching me everything he knows about work ethic, taking pride in what you do, and never letting a “quick buck” compromise morals and ethics. If it weren’t for his support and encouragement, his adoration of my mother and her intelligence, as well as always letting me know that he thought I was always “the best” at everything I did….I would not have the confidence to move forward through the “Alpha Male Game” like I do. A huge thank you to my amazing father for not only this interview, but for helping shape me into the woman I am and continue to strive to be.
What is the one trait you admire most in others
What is the one trait you admire most in yourself?
Which internal quality do you believe sets women back in the workplace?
Preoccupation with their makeup
Which external quality do you believe sets women back in the workplace?
Too much makeup
What is the hardest lesson for working women to learn?
To look natural
Which book is on your nightstand?
Cien Años de Solidad by Garbriel García Márquez, and the English version. I am trying to read the original Spanish version and the English version at the same time. Wish me luck
What woman do you feel is a role model in today’s working industry (could be any industry)?
My wife, Katie. And I am not just being chivalrous. She is a genius at everything she does (This is true, Mom graduated Phi Beta Kappa from UCB at the age of 20)
The quality you admire most in a successful man?
Tenacity in his pursuit of a difficult but attainable goal
The quality you admire most in a successful woman?
Tenacity in her pursuit of a difficult but attainable goal
A virtue you believe is underrated?
What is your idea of happiness?
Good physical health for myself and my family, and reasonable financial security. These are things that I am blessed to have, thanks to a measure of good fortune, combined with hard work by all parties concerned. So I am happy
What do you value most in friends?
What, in your mind, would be the greatest of misfortunes?
To lose one’s health, or worse, for your loved ones to lose their health
What do you believe is a working woman’s greatest fear?
Being judged as a woman instead of being judged as a peer
In your career, what has been your greatest regret? Do you feel this is a male oriented regret or one shared by men and women alike?
I am a lawyer, and will be retiring in a few years. I regret somewhat not having kept up with all of the technology that people use in business these days. It hasn’t hurt me, but I can see where that failure would be a considerable handicap for a younger person
Which words or phrases do you most overuse?
I generally have so little to say that it is difficult to overuse any particular phrase. One thing I would tell young people is that I used to think it was impressive to use technical jargon in front of laymen. But that’s just rude. You will do better in your job if you talk to people in language that they understand (LOL, this is true, my Dad talks very little, but when he does, EVERYONE listens)
Cite an example of a woman who you feel made a great achievement?
List five qualities that this woman had that you feel helped her achieve her success.
Humility, compassion, intelligence, staying firm in her beliefs, being fearless in her actions
What do you think is the greatest difference between our mother’s generation and our own?
I would say that my generation, and certainly the generation of most of the young readers here, have a great advantage over my mother’s generation because we know that smoking will kill you, as, in fact, it did to both of my parents (OK, there is a meaning in here that a few of us are getting loud and clear)
One piece of advice to young women in the workplace
Make yourself indispensable