Hello SOTGC Community,
Over the past two weeks there have been extreme changes that I have been dealing with. Two of our good friends have recently graduated and are heading to different parts of the country to complete their fellowship training. In two weeks most of my cousins will fly into San Diego to celebrate in our Grandparent’s house (one last time) the shared memories of our childhood and experiences before the house goes up on the market and we no longer have any physical semblance of the home that three generations have grown up in.
Through all of this, there is one key component that lightens the mood and keeps everything in a positive perspective, laughter. No matter how crazy external factors get, no matter what current incident is going on that needs to be worked through and resolved, we can always share a good laugh and suddenly, things seem so much better.
Chiazo, Alex, Carly, and I just finished brunch at our usual Sunday spot, Mary Jane’s at the Hardrock Hotel in San Diego. By the way, if you ever feel the need to experience highway robbery without having a gun or knife shoved into your face, I highly recommend valet parking at the Hardrock hotel. Two hours for brunch and I had to seriously consider liquidating a 401K to pay for the valet fee. But I digress…
As we sat around laughing about the events of the weekend, about the horrors that Chiazo and Alex are facing with storage units, packing cars/luggage for their trip, and the shambles that their houses have been in as they pack, we can laugh about it all. Alex realizing she packed up three boxes full of designer shoes yet wears only one pair on a weekly basis (for some reason when she was telling us this I heard 36 pairs…and that somehow ended up on a facebook post). Chiazo realizing that she never thinks she has anything to wear, yet can’t fit all of her clothes into her jeep to trek on the cross country drive to her new home for a year.
Midway through brunch the realization that this would be the last time we would be getting together (at least for a year) hit me and for a few seconds, all teasing and PIC humor fled. Three of us sat there for a split second, staring at the half full bottle of champagne, and savoring the last moment we would share before one traveled to the other side of the world, one headed out on a drive into the deep south, and I ambled back to my condo to write this.
Thirty seconds later another inappropriate comment was made, (I’m pretty sure it was Chiazo telling us that she was’t going to miss us but that we would definitely miss her), which was followed by a “one up” comment and all seriousness fled to be replaced by humor.
Finding the humor in any situation, no matter how taxing or emotional, will keep everything in perspective and can help relieve any undue stress. I personally use it to diffuse tense personal and work situations. I’ve recently found that when discussions turn towards a negative path at work, exclaiming “same team!” and then re-iterating the positive aspects can distract someone long enough to clear any tension and bring the focus back to what my original goal was. It also seems to help a tense situation between two men who are engaging in what I refer to as a “pissing contest” by challenging one of them to a thumb wrestling contest. This both baffles and distracts the challenged man long enough to clear out the heated argument that was previously ensuing, and gives me an opportunity to practice my dexterity. I don’t recommend doing this in a work environment because I’m pretty sure the word “wrestle” could land one in HR mediation, a place to be avoided whenever possible.
All joking aside, a good rule of thumb seems to be that if you can find the humor in any situation, then every situation can be a useful learning experience, and make for a great story afterwards.
Marney Reid is a Marketing Program Manager for a global industry leader in medical device. She is also the Founder of Stilettos on the Glass Ceiling. She has nine years of sales experience in male dominated industries and is transcending the Glass Ceiling by using her authentic value proposition as a competitive advantage.